I've never left a job for reasons that weren't 100% sound on paper like moving, grad school or my employer was acquired. I quit because it was time for me to move on. I guess I can check that off my growing up list.
Here's what I learned:
- The first time you quit is absolutely terrifying. I thought I was going to projectile vomit on the floor.
- I should've listened to myself earlier.
- My job is not my identity. A couple years from now, this won't even matter.
- It takes a lot of confidence in yourself to quit without a firm plan b while living in one of the most expensive cities in the country. That being said, if you are considering making a change, you need to be absolutely certain in your decision. While you may assume I endorse making fuck-it-I'm-a-millennial decisions because this is a millennial lifestyle blog, I don't. This should be well-calculated. I highly advise going through your finances to understand your rock bottom and settle on what may be required to make it until your next gig.
- Mental and physical well-being take priority over money. Yes, there is a minimum here, but that balance is a very personal choice and I'll let you be the judge of that.
- It's not the end of the world. I'm healthy, smart and very capable of finding my way.
- Don't have the "I quit" conversation on very little sleep and/or when you're at your breaking point. I managed to get through it, but it certainly wasn't my best performance.
- Rehearsal is key, don't wing this one. Have your talking points ready and be prepared when your boss tries to keep you from leaving. Stay firm in your position and remember what led you to this point.
- This is a business decision and not at all unusual. Don't say I'm sorry. You're not sorry. Instead of sorry, you should leave on good terms.
- It sucks playing the waiting game to tell your colleagues. Regardless of why you're quitting, there are at least a few people you will miss. I will miss a lot of people.
So what's next?
Your guess is as good as mine. You just might find me selling sassy greeting cards on the internet or hanging out in another cubicle somewhere. While my next step is uncertain, I assure you I'm relieved, excited and motivated to make things happen.
I don't know where I'm going from here, but I promise it won't be boring.